You Can't Help But Cheat, But You Can Delay It.

Men are low by nature and have to cheat, you can’t understand it, you will have to have a penis to understand it -  Eddie Murphy

That is as true as it gets with faithfulness and the man, Imagine holding a garden hose switched on to the highest and using your hands to press it from not pouring that is exactly how every it sometimes feel to be a man especially many of us down with celibacy and faithfulness and the fear of what society will say to us if we actually do the infinitesimal of thoughts that run through an average man's mind everyday.

   Based on the genetic make up of the man, he was designed to spout out seed at all time. it is a need implanted in him from day one,  here in our society this animalistic blueprint is considered cheating, so what then is cheating, cheating for me starts at the slightest provocation, it happens just as you look at a person and look again just to appreciate that person and if that makes you feel uncomfortable the man is going to cheat you decided if you are going to get your heart broken.

This Cheating starts when you see a beautiful person and starts asking personal questions comparing her with either your girlfriend or wife at home, because truth be told it really doesn’t take much to fall head over heels in love with a person."Love is easy, Trust now that is the issue"

Cursed by the need to search for "love" even when we think we do and settle still we still stay searching for the perfect hole for our pegs the man that matches bone of bones flesh of our flesh and skin to skin as we know it. 

Here's what little advice i can offer from my own understanding, and  For as long I can remember it has worked wonders.

"Lust is an intoxicating  poison that wears off through time"  and the solution profouded was 

Avoid looking into a woman face so you don’t get caught up in her beauty Which is really true and might be the advice in the Bible from the book Sirach, but these guys didn't have the modern day problem of having social media accounts, modern day exhibitionism of people and in the media.in general.

This code for as long as I can remember that have helped create the faithfulness the society applauds

and it involves toying with  idea of "fate and predestination" as we know it trying to affirm or question it, my judo “ if  it is mean't to be i'll see her twice, "now imagine that being applicable in a bustling city like New York or Lagos where the chance of you meeting that person is one in a million 

this helps because if we went on asking every woman we met on the way every time we boarded a bus in a city or felt the slight feeling of being besotted from an hair swing or light voice our phone and memory card will be filled with contacts  of girls who you feel will be the one and In most case could as well be.

But when you do find the one,  who you want to spend the rest of your life with, you need to respect the person by playing a game with the reneging impulses of your body by saying “ if  it is mean't to be i'll see her twice, " how applicable this is , depends on you and the mood you are working on each day.

   Crushes are eternal,but we could control ourselves because when the clothes come off they are all the same. so we should just help ourselves by not cheating on our spouses because no matter the facade, approach, level of intellect you are just doing the same old boring stuff, and should get tiring after a while. but this still depends on you and your mood and intentions when you cross paths with such person and probably not because of a personal obsession on your part where you traced her to the front steps of her door and stood there the next day making fake phone calls and blaming fate, 

But if per chance you do meet this person and you are single by all means you don't need this game, say something the highest you could get is a No! but this is for who have a woman you promise to be faithful to and is probably waiting for you at home.

Still if you feel she is the one and you do find "true love" after getting married and still played this fate game and ended up meeting her again somewhere someplace, you could say the hello and pray you get disappointed for your better half’s sake and if you don’t you were never that in love with your better half  in the first place. 

And if still  she is the one, you already have a punchline and reference day  to go with, Were you the one I saw that day putting on that green top in that place >>>>

Don’t say I never did anything for you

Victor Samuel